Chrissy G

Tuesday, April 05, 2005

TRUST

In life we build relationships with a significant other but do we really trust them? I personally feel that trust is an issue for me. Being that I have been in a relationship where I placed my trust blindly only to have that person prove to me that my trust was misplaced. After that experience I have found it difficult to trust again. What is trust anyways? In my opinion it is just a saved argument. For example: if my boyfriend were to tell me that he's going to a night club and then spending the night over at his friends and I were to say that I trust him and he goes, does my saying that I trust him going to stop him from doing something. No matter how much you trust someone it will not change what they do. For all I know, I could consent to his night out, placing my trust in him, and really he could be out with a girl spending the night with her. By saying that I trust him all I am doing is avoiding asking questions, not making him call me and ultimately avoiding the whole "you don't trust me" fight. By asking questions I would appear insecure and not trusting, but I feel as a girlfriend it is my right to ask questions. There is a limit to how far trust goes. I'm not saying that I don't trust at all, but I know the difference between trust and being naive.
Right now some of you might be saying "what an aweful girlfriend" or "I would hate to have her as a girlfriend", and you are entitled to your opinion, but please hear me out before you pass judgement on me. When I am in a relationship I give my all to that person but I feel that it is my duty to protect myself emotionally. My trust issues don't go as far as I don't trust at all, but there is a limit to it. I realize that we are all human and that we all make mistakes and I am not going to sit here believing that my boyfriend is an angel and that he is not capable of doing wrong, NO ONE is. My boyfreind tells me that he trusts that I would never do wrong to him, and he is right because I wouldn't, but I tell him that he should never trust someone so blindly because I am capable of screwing up as well. Hey, I am only looking out for myself, and you should too. No one will ever care about your well being as much as you do. Trust, by all means please trust, but don't trust blindly.

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